Yesterday I talked about What is love?, today I want to consider loving oneself. Until you love yourself, you can never truly love someone else. Many people are worried about the concept of loving oneself. However, for me there is no greater importance. Yes, it is important to love others but it is hard to show love to others if we do not love ourselves. Ultimately in life we are alone. We can be surrounded by others but still be alone. If you can depend on yourself and be strong for yourself (with God behind you of course), then others will be able to rely on you also.
Many people, often sadly young people, struggle to like themselves, never mind love themselves. We can all suffer from being self-critical and this is not necessarily a bad thing; because it makes us want to improve ourselves. If this means we try to be more loving, kind, patient, friendly, then that is great. The trouble is when we do not value ourselves. If we do not think we are worthy of love – who will love us? Some people believe they are too ugly, too fat, too thin, too short, tall … the list goes on. Let us remember none of us are perfect. We all have our good and bad points. Yet we are all worthy of love.
Do you recognise any of these traits in yourself? I know I have suffered myself from this in the past. However, now I know I am loved and I have learnt to love myself. Why not make a list today of all your lovable attributes and then make one for someone else you know – maybe a sibling, partner, a parent, a child; even someone you find it really hard to love. If we try hard enough, we can all find the good in ourselves and others.
Love yourself today.